The Illusion Of Social Media


I wanted to make this blog post addressing a tweet I made not too long ago.

Sometimes as much as I love social media, I do see how destructive it can be. Everyday we are bombarded with images of people – showing us little snippets of their lives that lead us to think that they are “goals” or perfect people who are always having fun.

It’s easy to get caught up in this and think that your life doesn’t compare.

  • Why am I not as good-looking?
  • Why aren’t I that successful?
  • Why isn’t my life as exciting?
  • Why can’t I be in a relationship like that?
  • Why aren’t I that rich?
  • Why can’t I go on amazing vacations?

We tear ourselves down so much comparing ourselves to all these people that we see on Instagram thinking that they have these perfect lives just from a couple photographs. We have to remember that people are only going to post the best part of their day. No one is posting all the negative things. We all have our own shit that we’re dealing with and you can’t forget that. Even the people that you are the most jealous of online have their problems too. We don’t know what happens once they turn the camera off. We don’t know these people at all and what they’re really going through behind closed doors, so we can’t act like our lives don’t compare.

No one is perfect and we all have our struggles, insecurities and setbacks. Never think someone’s life is being better than your own. Don’t believe all the hype and the illusion that social media often gives off. It’s extremely toxic to ones well being to be influenced by all this, and think that they “should” look or live a certain way.

That Instagram model you think has a perfect life might suffer from severe depression. That “relationship goals” couple you follow might have a lot of infidelity and trust issues. That really funny YouTuber with millions of fans might not have any friends at school. Just be grateful for the life you live in stop comparing your life to what you think others are living. I promise not all that glitters is gold.


Don’t ever compare yourself to these people! Don’t tear yourself down trying to be “perfect” like they appear to be. We are all human, and we are all equal. No one is better than you just because they can take a better photograph. People get depressed and caught up trying to be cool and get likes on Instagram – thats fun and all until it takes a tool on your self worth and confidence.

Remember someone’s feed is only part of their story.

So all these photos you see.. take it with a grain of salt

because 9 times out of 10 it is just an illusion.

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  1. Elly Leavitt

    January 26, 2017 at 7:57 pm

    I love this! it’s so easy to be caught up in social media (def guilty of spending way too much time on Instagram haha) but it’s great to have a reminder that it’s not real life. x

  2. Jenny

    January 26, 2017 at 8:17 pm

    You’re very right. Social media is just a little snippet into someone’s day and we shouldn’t let ourselves get discouraged about that because we don’t have any idea what goes on behind the scenes. Love this!

    xoxo, Jenny

  3. Amanda

    January 26, 2017 at 8:22 pm

    This is so true– what people put out on social media may not always be a true reflection of themselves. I see so many people fawning over some bloggers and influencers because of what they post but it really does not show the true, big picture. Great insightful post!

  4. Chelsie

    January 26, 2017 at 11:57 pm

    While I TOTALLY agree with the fact that social media makes it easy to play the comparison game, I think it’s also important that we celebrate the fact that the majority of these people are at least putting positive images into the world. I’d much rather look at their illusions than look at pornographic or derogatory photos. That being said, I love it when people like this get raw and real – it makes them more real!

  5. Greta

    January 27, 2017 at 12:12 am

    I’m actually writing my grad school thesis on this. The research and stats are amazing!

    Greta |

  6. Nicole Booz

    January 27, 2017 at 1:19 am

    I completely agree with you! Seeing so many staged and “perfect” images regularly can be really damaging for impressionable young adults. It really hurts our self-esteem to see everyone else’s highlight reel.

  7. Rachel Ritlop

    January 27, 2017 at 8:18 am

    So much yes to all of this!!! It’s so true! there was an IG account and this girl looked like she had the best life ever – but it was actually a marketing ploy to see if anyone would notice she was an alcoholic as every picture had a drink. the illusion of social media so real!

    Rachel | The Confused Millennial

  8. Ashley Mason

    January 27, 2017 at 4:27 pm

    You have a good point here! As a social media consultant, I focus on helping brands to create a genuine presence.

  9. Alex

    January 27, 2017 at 8:59 pm

    YES. Everything in this post! So important to remind myself that not everything I see on social media is REAL

  10. Carly Delski

    January 28, 2017 at 9:22 am

    I work for TV. My secret- I only wear makeup 2 days out of the week but we shoot on those 2 days so it looks like I’m done up all the time! It really is just skilled illusion. xx

  11. carolyn

    January 28, 2017 at 2:18 pm

    YES to all of this! I try to keep it pretty real on social media, especially in my writing. photos may have filters, but I am so far from perfect and many of my followers get that 🙂

  12. Alexis Reliford

    January 28, 2017 at 6:41 pm

    Such a good post! It’s so important that everyone embraces their unique situation and focuses less on everyone’s “perfect” lives.

  13. Michaela

    January 31, 2017 at 10:47 am

    The comparison factor is awful. It makes me sad how seriously some people take social media.


    August 14, 2017 at 2:02 pm

    Network scientists have discovered how social networks can create the illusion that something is common when it is actually rare.

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