Seeking Validation through “Likes”
I must admit, I am VERY guilty of letting my number of likes affect my view of myself. Getting a lot of likes, for a brief moment, can make you feel good about yourself. It’s this sick sort of validation of “oh yea, I’m cool, I’m pretty”
When I found myself deleting Instagram posts when they didn’t get “enough” likes, I knew I had a problem and there was a deep rooted issue. I had to really think about why I was posting. Was it to share amazing photos, or was it for people to validate my appearance, my life style, & personality?
Instagram is my FAVORITE app, I use it more than anything else and I take it pretty seriously. I love making my page look good; I always have a certain aesthetic, and like to take cool photos. It’s important to me that my feed always looks lit. Now this is fine, it’s my way of having creative expression, but it’s an issue when it was becomes a chore, and or stressful.
At the end of the day it’s just an app and it’s not that deep. A lot of people become addicted to the “Likes”. The need to seek validation from others that you’re cool or attractive is always there. It’s even harder when you feel you’re in competition with people you see on the Explore page. You know, those profiles you constantly comment “goals” on…. Or maybe that’s just me. But in extreme cases it causes people to share explicit photos, or content that doesn’t truly represent who they are. You must never front for Instagram! You have to be yourself and love yourself. Who cares about getting likes if you’re pretending to be something you aren’t.
I now post what I want and try not care about likes as much. Yes, I still care about having a bomb feed but I only do it for me now. I don’t do it for others; I don’t care who likes it and who doesn’t. Instagram does not have the right to generate anyone’s happiness. You have to be happy on your own. You have to give yourself that validation everyday that “yes, I’m a cool ass person, and yes I’m attractive”. No amount of likes can tell you otherwise. I hope all of you can start thinking this way, because I know I’m not the only who used to let likes define me.
Be yourself, and don’t care about how many “Likes” that can get.