It’s been just about a year since I graduated college and started “adulting”. It has gone by SO fast, and I still don’t feel like I’m even close to mastering this stuff at all. I’m basically just a baby with a briefcase, trying to figure my life out.
For some reason, I thought when I started my career that my co-workers would become my best friends. This is just not the case. While yes, I’m very lucky to have awesome friendly co-workers, not much of our interaction leaves work. At the end of the day they are my co-workers and they want to keep it professional, which I get, but where else am I supposed to make new friends?
Don’t even get me started with relationships. I have no idea where you are suppose to meet guys. Our generation seems to be so distracted by phones that it’s nearly impossible to make eye contact with someone you might be interested in. Even if you meet guys when you go out to clubs or bars, it’s pretty rare that anything actually comes from it because typically those guys are just looking for a good time. My mom always says “Leeza, you won’t find a man in the club” LOL. Oh well, I stay hopeful.
I just don’t understand how your suppose to meet new people and make lasting relationships in your 20’s now days. When you’re in college, the environment makes it so that you are basically forced to be social and get to know others. When you are an adult, you go to work, and that’s about it.
It just seems like If you didn’t hold on to the friends you made in college or even highschool then you’re pretty much screwed. I tried to join classes and meet other people but it’s the same thing…it just seems like nothing ever really comes from it.
I of course already have an amazing group of friends but as I get older I just want to grow and meet new people and experience new things. I want to meet people with different mindsets than my own who can help teach me things. I want to meet a guy who’s different than all the rest, to actually form a good relationship with.
One of my favorites, Keke Palmer, recently said in an interview that Millennial dating is hard! She’s so right, and even if a gorgeous celebrity struggles with relationships something must be wrong. I think it also goes back to our addiction to technology. The last two guys I’ve dated, I had met them on Tinder. Of course it’s a great tool to meet guys you otherwise wouldn’t have.. but at the same time I feel like our phones are blocking us from making connections in real life, that can be a lot more meaningful. Our phones distract us from what’s right in front of us.
I would love to hear any experiences you guys have had down below in the comments. How do you put yourself out there to make new friends and or start a new relationship? I hope our generation as a whole can be more open to being social & building relationships without the security of our cell phones.